“Why Can’t I Fall In Love: The Dating Podcast for Millennials”
How can you ever cultivate a truly healthy relationship in your life and find someone who loves you for you if you don’t even know who the hell you are? Being alone doesn’t automatically equal loneliness. Being alone equals finding out who you are and doing the work to get to the bottom of your choices.
As a young girl who was raised by a beautiful, black, single woman, I ended up learning certain things about the opposite sex and dating not only from the things my mother told me but also from the things I saw and noticed. As I grew older and became a woman, I took certain things my mother taught me directly and indirectly into my dating life.
“Most of us (myself included) feel like it’s harder to meet someone now than it was back in our parents’ and grandparents’ generations. Why is that? If you want my opinion (like I knew you would), it’s because we’re focused on certain things in life that warrant a long pause in getting married at a young age.”
Why is dating as a millennial so got damn hard? Seriously. All I know is, social media has altered our expectations of what a healthy relationship looks like. If you open your Twitter app, chances are after a few scrolls you’ll see a couple’s random picture on your timeline, with the words “relationship goals” captioned above it.
“To all of the people entering next year without a significant other, this one really is for you.”
Don’t think of this time alone as a negative, but a push from the universe to focus on you. Use this time to set yourself up for an amazing 2019, and everything else will fall right into place…
“Let me repeat that for anyone who may have missed the headline…millennials do not like dating apps; it’s just, genuinely, all we have when it comes to the world of online dating.”
Within my amazement of the situation, a thought later crossed my mind that I didn’t expect… “I wonder if Offset knows his adult attachment style? I wonder if most young adults know their adult attachment style?”
With all of that being said, I felt like she’d be the perfect candidate for a little experiment I had in mind: I wanted to sign my mother up for Tinder and see if she was able to meet a serious contender from the app.
On this edition of “Dating Question of the Week” Christen answers a dater’s question about getting back into the dating world after taking two years off. Press play to hear the entire question and Christen’s advice!
This week’s dating question comes from a woman who doesn’t know if she move closer to boyfriend of 7 months, or stay in California. Our matchmaker, Christen Turner, gives her advice to the dater and let’s her know exactly what to do.
“I’m in a relationship, but I’m kind of falling for another woman. We both attend the same graduate school and ended up working on something together. Long story short, I noticed that I was thinking about her more than I should be and will even sometimes try to “accidentally” run into her after a lecture class. “
This week’s dating question comes from “A Tale of Two Men” who can’t seem to choose between two guys she’s dating at the same time. One man is ambitious and loyal while the other man is very attractive with not as much ambition. What would YOU do?
“There’s a woman that I’m interested in dating but I just can’t seem to get out of the friendzone. We work for the same company, but not in the same department. I mean, if it has to do with us working together…we’re in two separate buildings, so I don’t get why that would be a problem. Should I just ask her out on a date?”
Our matchmaker, Christen Turner, responded to one of your dating questions this week! See what advice she gave a dater that’s stuck in a situationship.
“Does this sound like you? If it does, that makes sense because it’s most of us.”
“I can’t seem to ever meet any man who wants me as more than a friend in their life. How do I shake this home girl syndrome and break out of the friend zone for good?”
I met a woman who I really like. We’ve gone on two dates so far and she’s beautiful, smart, well-spoken, and loves her family. There’s one problem; she constantly brings up the “hoes” I don’t have.